1. “Theres no universal consensus on what behaviors constitute having s3x,” relationship and se.x expert Kristen Mark, Ph.D., tells BuzzFeed Life.
Not to mention, the notion of “‘virginit’y’ is very heterocentric. It really excludes a large number of people who may consider themselves as having lost their virginit’y,
but that definition is going to be very different for them.” So losing your v card might involve penetration, or it might involve anal s3x, or@l s3x, manual stimulation, dildos, whatever. There’s no rule that your first time has to meet a specific set of criteria.